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Time to re-think ways of marriage

Published 6:16am Sunday, April 28, 2013

I have lived in the Austin community for the past five years, having moved from Topeka, Kan. As I prepare to move to another city in another state, I feel obliged to offer my own commentary on an issue that I find profoundly important.

As humans, it is in our nature to reject and be repulsed by the things with which we are unfamiliar. We frequently fear what we do not intimately know, and more disturbingly, we fear what we do not understand. Our epistemological yearnings, our desire to validate what we deem to be the ultimate truth, frequently leads us to acts of devastating persecution.

Having read multiple opinion columns and letters to the editor in the past year condemning the intrinsic nature of citizens, I frequently am appalled by the vitriolic intolerance towards our LGBTQ community, thinly veiled by grandiloquence. Using higher learning (particularly philosophy and theology) to oppress our fellow man defeats the entire purpose of these studies. We seek to educate ourselves for empowerment, not oppression. In this age of enhanced sensitivity toward bullying, how is it possible that we allow others to condemn — to assert that the very nature of these people denies them the right to their relationship, regardless of how pure, loving or significant — to be validated equally?

It seems inconceivable that my husband and I would be denied the validation of our profound and beautiful relationship simply based on incongruity with a “standard definition” of family. Therefore, it absolutely devastates me that people whom I love dearly and value greatly must battle this issue every day of their lives, along with wading through the anguish of lifetime marginalization, for simply pursuing the very human desire to love and be loved.

While the issues of the LGBTQ community are very close to my heart, we must remember that there are many differences in our world that inspire some to commit atrocious acts of violence and hatred. It is our duty to commit to acceptance, love and understanding, regardless of gender, sexual orientation, religious affiliation, ethnic background or any other thing one can consider divisive. This is the very least we can do for our world.

We can change our ways. Our words can be those of love, not intolerance.

We must begin to re-educate our hearts. Love is love, regardless of context.


Katie Hunerdosse


  1. Scott Bute

    Love may be love but by itself, it is not nor will it ever constitute marriage. We needn’t “rethink” marriage because it has already been well thought out and defined by the very Author of Marriage, God himself. That said, it saddens me that there are some who out of fear, hatred or intolerance would resort to vitriol or even violence. Unfortunately I have seen this from both sides of the debate.
    The late Pope John Paul II taught so beautifully on the topic of marriage. You can go to for some eye and heart opening information on the topic of sexuality and marriage. The authors do a wonderful job of unpacking this beautiful teaching from J.P.II. It is geared for young people but adults of any faith or no faith can benefit from it greatly as well.

  2. Carol Bybee

    Marriage was designed by God for man and woman.
    While we are to love every person, we cannot compromise.
    God designed his creation for a purpose and no new thinking or laws will change HIS perfection.

  3. Patrick Cunningham

    It appears much of so-called human morality & ethics is artificial, contrived. True morality resides and emerges from the unconscious. True ethical behavior is not contemplated, reasoned, or planned.

    Therefore be wary of social engineers disguised as sheep whose priorities lay spreading fear, mistrust, bigotry, and rascism among the herd.

  4. Scott Bute

    I disagree wholeheartedly Patrick. Doing something evil is a conscious choice. The attack by terrorists on 9/11 was planned and a conscious choice was made to kill thousands of innocent people. The attack in Boston was a conscious choice made by two terrorists bent on killing and hurting as many as they could. Murder is a conscious choice. A mother choosing to abort her unborn baby is a conscious choice. A so called doctor named Kermit Gosnell made a conscious choice to kill babies who survived his botched abortions. And just as evil choices are consciously made, so are choices to do what is right and good. Our good God gave us an incredible gift called free will and we are free to love him and obey him or not.