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Every Little Thing by April Jeppson

At work last week, someone quoted a book they had recently read called “How Full Is Your Bucket?” The idea is simple, but powerful. Every interaction we have either fills our bucket or empties it. Being aware of who is pouring into us and who is draining us dry is the first step in protecting our peace and building stronger relationships. One thing that stuck with me from the discussion was a concept the book calls the “magic ratio” — five positive interactions for every one negative. That is what it takes to maintain healthy, thriving relationships. Five to one. It sounds like a lot, but the more I thought about it, the more it made sense.

After that conversation, one of my co-workers suggested we try something small but intentional. Each day, we’d share three things we are grateful for in our group chat. Just a little list of good stuff from our day. I loved the idea immediately, but to be honest, I wasn’t sure how long we’d keep it up. It’s the kind of habit that feels simple enough to do, but just as easy to forget.

But let me tell you, we’ve been doing it for about a week now and I can already feel the shift. When my phone lights up in the evening with co-workers posting their gratitude, it’s a gentle nudge to pause and reflect on my own day. What went well? What made me smile? What tiny win or funny moment is worth remembering?

These gratitude posts are not limited to work-related accomplishments or deep thoughts. We’ve had everything from someone being thankful for a supportive spouse to someone else (me) being grateful they made it home in time to use the bathroom. I mean, sometimes that is the win of the day.

This daily habit is already helping us learn more about each other outside of work, which builds a deeper sense of connection. The lists are honest, heartfelt, sometimes funny and always appreciated. There is something about reading what others are thankful for that softens the edges of a long day. It invites kindness and empathy into the conversation.

We haven’t been doing it long enough to publish any official research about improved workplace morale or reduced stress levels, but I know what I feel. I feel seen. I feel more connected. I feel lighter. And I can’t be the only one experiencing these benefits.

We often underestimate how much impact the smallest habits can have. Just like negativity can spread like wildfire, so can gratitude. The energy we bring to a room is contagious. One thankful moment can inspire another, and another, and before you know it, we’re all walking around with fuller buckets and better attitudes.

We may not always be able to avoid the people or situations that try to drain us, but we can be intentional about how we refill. Gratitude is one of the easiest, most accessible ways to do it. So here’s to saying thank you more often, celebrating the little things and starting a quiet but powerful ripple of good.

Albert Lean April Jeppson is a wife, mom, coach and encourager of dreams. Her column appears every Saturday.