The Nice Advice by Leah Albert

Leah Albert is a fictitious character. She likes wine and writing. Don’t ask her to be a matchmaker. Do send your questions to Leah at theniceadviceleahalbert@gmail.com.

Dear Leah,

 

Hi there! I am a 12-year-old boy and have had a crush on my best friend for a while (a girl). My other best friend (a boy) also likes her.

She just found out that he likes her and claims she doesn’t like him, but I don’t believe her. She laughs at everything he says, she always chooses to talk to him out of all her friends, etc.

Today in science she seemed upset about something, and I asked her about it. She said, “It’s you.” And that is all.

Now I am starting to take interest in her best friend, who has a boyfriend. I really want my best friend to like me, and I have since the beginning of the school year, but I can’t figure it out.

We do have a school dance, and I think I might ask her to that, but what else? Should I ask her out? I am starting to get really stressed about this. Thanks!

Signed,

Date or Wait, 12

 

Dear Date or Wait,

As you said, you’ve had a crush on your best friend for a while now, so you obviously really like her. My advice would be to go for it, ask her while you have the chance.

As for your doubts, you said that you think she likes your other best friend, but she has clarified that she doesn’t like him. You said that she talks to him more, but maybe she talks to him more because she trusts him a lot as a friend. I’m sure even you have that one friend you can tell anything to.

You also mentioned a bit of confusion in science — maybe she was just having a bad day. If still in doubt you could ask her to the dance, as a friend of course. She couldn’t say no to that!

Now as for your interest in this other girl, I advise you not to go for her as it may cause conflict between you and her boyfriend. If it all doesn’t work, try not to let this get you down. You will have other opportunities in the future, and you two don’t have to stop being great friends.

 

Take care!

Leah